I'll start this post by saying that it's directed mainly at Chrisitan men.
I often have a hard time with Biblical mandates such as "loving my wife as Christ loved the church" (Eph 5:25) and "looking not on my own things, but on the things of others" (Phil 2:4) . And yet, I am currently at a place where doing so is vital. My wife is scheduled for a C-section in two days for our second child. There is a need for me to take care of a lot of the housework. I can't say I'm enthusiastically jumping into that. We both have our own ways of doing things, and if I don't do them her way she can let me know what she thinks very quickly.
The other night I had a lot of clothes to put away, most of which were either hers or our son's. I offerred to do it, and she quickly told me I'd do it wrong. I told her that if she is going to tell me that I need to help then she is going to have to stand back and let me help.
Rather than rush though doing it my way, I tried somthing new. I reverse engineered her system of folding and storing clothes. I actually managed to get the baby clothes put away in a manner that she could be pleased with.
I know this will sound silly on the surface, and if it does to you then please continue on to other blogs. But if you're looking for a way to do something nice for your wife, and this idea resonates with you, then give it a shot.
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It is hard to love someone else and to not get nitpicky about "The Right Way" to do things. I'm a newlywed and I have been trying my best to just let him know how I want things done and not get upset if he does it differently. He folds his clothes, I hang mine. He does laundry twice a week, I do mine once a month. We have to either meet in the middle or just look out for our spouse in the way that they need it. I found that my favorite way to make hubby happy is to cook him lavish meals. But I don't clean up properly after, which has been a source of stress for him. You can't help someone if you aren't trying to be helpful. :)
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